This is my recommended reading list. This list is oriented more towards men, since the topics that most interest me usually relate to how to best relate with my internal workings and with the world at large. That isn't to say women can't read these books. On the contrary, many would enjoy them. They are however geared to more masculine identities regardless of gender/sex.

Recommended Order

  • Robert Glover - No More Mr. Nice Guy
  • Dale Carnegie - How to Win Friends and Influence People
  • Mark Manson - The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
  • Mark Manson - Models
  • Viktor Frankl - Man's Search for Meaning
  • David Deida - The Way of the Superior Man
  • Moore & Gillette - King, Warrior, Magician, Lover
  • Zan Perrion - The Alabaster Girl
  • Anything else not mentioned


Robert Glover - No More Mr. Nice Guy

The starting point for a young man looking how to improve the way he relates to the world. In short, it's about owning your emotions and helping others because you want to, not because you want something from them.

Mark Manson - The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck

A book about priorities. It's a very big world out there, and can quickly become overwhelming. Maybe Mark Manson's writing will help settle your mind on the things you want to focus on.

Viktor Frankl - Man's Search for Meaning

The first half is a harrowing account of life in the Auchwitz camp during World War II. The latter half, is to explain how anyone managed to persevere in that environment, exploring the then-new field of logotherapy -- One's logos ("word", purpose) to live.


Dale Carnegie - How to Win Friends and Influence People

A classic entrypoint to becoming more sociable. it contains timeless advice, despite sounding like a guide to being a salesman in the 1930s at times.

Daniel Goleman - Emotional Intelligence & Working with Emotional Intelligence

These two books are hallmarks of understanding how people work and how to deal with them effectively. Numerous studies conducted and described, showing how all sorts of people react to all sorts of situations. More importantly, it highlights how one's childhood greatly affects their personality and actions, while being careful to highlight that this doesn't set their features & flaws in stone and that both can be changed.


Mark Manson - Models

One might be tempted to seek more "taboo" pickup artist advice depending on their dating goals. But that advice does not address the real problem many men have: they are not comfortable with themselves, and thus they can't express themselves effectively to people they'd like to be friends with or date. This is the sort of thing that takes years to improve upon, and I can't say i've mastered anything myself. That being said, if you read nothing else on this list, this is definitely the book to go for.

Next to The Alabaster Girl below, this is one of my favourite books of all time.

In short: this is a book of simple truths, yet hard realisations.


These books focus more on internal states and how one relates to the world. Some parts relate to psychology, and others are more spiritual in nature. Regardless, all of them are good mental frameworks to understand yourself.

David Deida - The Way of the Superior Man

Here, David Deida explores what it takes to be a man tackling on our common challenge areas: from career to women to relationships to spirituality (or as much of that as you believe in).

Moore & Gillette - King, Warrior, Magician, Lover

A book of archetypes. Each archetype has a good and bad side. The King - Leader vs Tyrant. The Warrior - Valiant or Brute. And so on. Which one are you?

Zan Perrion- The Alabaster Girl

I honestly cannot do this book justice. This one was 10 years in the making, and the blood, sweat and truth of it show.

If you find yourself seeking a manifesto for love, or wondering "why bother?", this is great place to start. In this book, Zan Perrion calls you and all men to a higher standard of interacting with ourselves, women, and the world. Why? Why not? There's a discontentment in today's men as many have lost touch with their inner Lover. How better to rekindle this than a tale of seduction?

Side note: If you read this and enjoy this, I'd also recommend the In Search of the Alabaster Girl video series on Youtube. It's essentially an extended commentary on the book & discussion on the topics at hand.